Tips for the Good Guys on Asking a Girl Out (by request)

So, it has come to my attention that I am capable of giving some advice on the aforementioned subject. Listen carefully.

Expressing interest in someone else is one of the most ballsy things to do in life. You could get rejected. You could be misunderstood.

But, worse yet, you could never find out what's going on. The next couple of blog entries will be completely dedicated to this subject.

Here is the first tip that might help you Good Guys out there:

First of all, express your interest directly. Do not say "I was wondering if you want to have lunch sometime". This can be confused with the completely platonic: "Let's have lunch sometime" - in which you'll find yourself finagling over schedules and locations, times, what's best on the menu, etc.

Instead, say: "I would really like to take you to lunch sometime. Will you come?" There, the intent is out there. It doesn't matter if it doesn't work in either of your schedules or you can't find the perfect place to go. It matters that you asked, and that you intended to ask. I can think of very few times when someone could say no to this, unless they absolutely do not like you. And if that's the case, you're better off knowing now than later when you've spent the extra $15 and your ego trying to figure it out over a meal.

Another tip coming next time! Cheers.